It Is Not About Labelling Your Child!

Kerry Gibb

Kerry Gibb is a mum to four lively boys and the author of It's A Kid's Life - a series of books aimed at children aged 7 - 11 years old.

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11 Responses

  1. Sadie says:

    Having this discussion with Papa bear right now I want to get my son checked out as I have suspicions of a condition, he is happy ‘enough’ but it is hard, I don’t know for sure but my husband doesn’t want him to be labelled. I don’t care I just want to know if he needs help to fulfil his potential, if he needs a diagnosis to do that and be happy then surely a label doesn’t matter. If a label means we can be more considerate of a childs behaviour or teach in a slightly different way to help them learn then it is good in my eyes. I started reading this from the title thinking I wasn’t going to like this post ( I assumed by the title you wanteded people to stop labelling children and telling people theyhave conditions – don’t know why now) but was really pleased you have a similar opinion as me – we can’t judge a book by its cover or a blog by its title x x x

    • Ivonne says:

      I agree! Don’t be scared you are blessed you have him as a son and if he needs your help in any way … I’m sure you are the best person to held you child go trough anything!

    • Kerry Gibb says:

      Absolutely Sadie. In my own personal experience Dad’s are much more reluctant than mums to get their child help. They take the attitude that everything will be ok and they don’t want their child being ‘labelled’. Obviously this doesn’t apply to all dad’s but I can safely say it did with us. I think it is hard to change their point of view but if your son knows that you have his back and you do what you can to help him then he will be just fine. xx

  2. Donna says:

    I love this post, you’ve highlighted a really grey area which doesn’t need to exist. xx

    • Kerry Gibb says:

      Thanks Donna, I really hope that it helps someone out there who is struggling right now. Educating people is the key to making this grey area rainbow coloured 🙂 xx

  3. Ivonne says:

    I loved this in every possible way! I truly admire you Kerry! He is just a normal boy with his own code printed on him! One of the sweetest boy I’ve ever met 🙂 Your clarity is really motivating any of us mum reading this, as we all feel scared when we start thinking our children could need more help than ours but if we close that window it could be worst, it is better to look for advice in friends and specialists, it is for their own good. Your fantastic 4 have a great mum!

    • Kerry Gibb says:

      Ah, you are so sweet – thank you. Seeing how my lovely boy has grown this past year has given me the strength the write this. I see friends going through early stages of things like autism and tourettes now and I realise how far we have come on our journey. If one other person feels more at ease about getting help after reading this then it was worth while writing it. Lots of love, xxxx

  4. I love this post and I’ve shared it in my Facebook Group (NLP Kids) because as an NLP Kids Coach I am often contacted by mums who tell me the label rather than telling me about their child as if the label is their identity. I know that isn’t the case for them personally but sadly they have become used to that being how the world treats them and their child – by their diagnosis. As NLpers we focus on what skills a child has and how they can use their unique gifts in parts of their lives where they need a little extra help and understanding. What is normal anyway and why is it so appealing? We admire the unusual, the people who go off and explore, those who help the needy, people who do extraordinary things.

    • Kerry Gibb says:

      Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing Judy. The work that you do sounds great. It is sad how mums use their childs ‘label’ when speaking to you, as if by knowing they are autistic or have another special need, you will know them as a person. Like I said in my post, we are all as different as snowflakes and autism, tourettes or whatever we may have by no means defines us. x

  5. Olufunmike says:

    Extraordinary post. Unfortunately, we don’t have control over what other people think about special children. Different isn’t bad. Different is just different. I would guess that parents that don’t want their children ‘labelled’ are talking from a place of fear. They’re probably scared that other people won’t see past the diagnosis.

    • Kerry Gibb says:

      You are right. It is a massive thing when you are first going through a diagnosis so if reading this post has helped just one person, then it has been worthwhile. Bit by bit we can educate people as we are less scared if we understand something. x

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