More To Me Than ‘Mum’
I am a ‘mum’, a ‘wife’, a ‘daughter’, a ‘sister’ and an ‘aunt’. I am an unpaid cook, an unpaid cleaner and an unpaid taxi. I strive to make my family life the best I possibly can for all of my boys as they are my world and what makes life worth living. When I became a mum, I embraced my role and have never been more content doing anything.
It struck me today though that once we enter this world of motherhood and make new friends and acquaintances along the way, people often don’t think deeply enough to see beyond our obvious status of ‘mum’. We chat to each other on the school run, we meet up for coffee and generally chat about motherhood and children. Every now and then we will move beyond these socially acceptable conversations with a new found friend and this is when we really click with someone. Of course we still have some friends from before motherhood who know our pre-mum persona as well as our current one. The school friends who saw us with goofy teeth and frizzy hair. The uni friends who saw us sprawled out on the sofa with our dress round our waist after too much cider. But most of the friends we make now see us as ‘mum’!
We don’t stop being ourselves when we become a mum. Our whole lives are a journey and we are learning and evolving day by day. When 2014 started I had no idea that I would be the writer of a blog that became a success over night and would have published my first book. I truly believe that all of my life experiences have led me to this point. My psychology degree and my deep way of thinking have blessed me with the ability to look beyond the obvious and have granted me with a deeper understanding of the way in which people interact in everyday life. My experience of motherhood over the past eight years has been the happiest and the hardest ever. I have had some of the toughest challenges thrown at me but my positive outlook on life has got us through them. All of these moments have inspired me to write about parenthood and bringing up my boys. It is the honesty of my writing that makes it so captivating to my audience.
Today I was at a party (which was lovely as when you have four lively kids, you don’t often get invited anywhere!) and I was flattered to hear that a lot of the mums there actually read my blog. And through reading my blog they have got to know me better in the last few months than they have in years! Suddenly, I am not just seen as Kerry, the mum of four boys who is always running late for everything! They realise that there is more to me, as there is to all of us. Being a mum doesn’t stop you being you, it just enhances what is already there and enriches what is yet to come. 🙂 Xx