NO-ONE Turned Up To His Party!
Today I happened to see a newsflash of a 6 year old autistic boy who was devastated when no-one turned up to his party. Nobody! Not one single person!
Seeing this brought out so many emotions in me. I felt devastated for this boy and his family as no parent should have to see their child being hurt in such a cruel way.
Not one single one of this boys class mates turned up to his birthday party! Please just take a minute to imagine how this feels to a little boy.
Maybe you have a child who has no ‘special needs’.
Maybe you have a child who has a great group of close knit friends.
Maybe you have a child who is ‘popular’ and you secretly feel proud of this.
Well, I am pleased for you, I really am. But this isn’t the case for everyone. Lots of children don’t fit the ‘perfect’ stereotypical child.
There will be children in your child’s school who have autism.
There will be children in your child’s school who have ADHD.
There will be children in your child’s school who have tourettes.
I don’t know why not one single person took their child to this party but I do know that they should feel ashamed of themselves and learn from the amazing response this family got from the decent people living around them.
Excluding children from parties is just as hurtful. Imagine not receiving one single birthday party invite all year as you hear your classmates all chatting about the next cool party at the weekend. Yes, as children get older they will be more selective in who they invite but as parents is it not our job to guide them in how to behave in life? Maybe if you were the one family to invite the ‘different’ child to your birthday party, everyone would realise that there was more to them than meets the eye. It might not mean much to you but it could mean the world to them.
Growing up is hard enough for children. Imagine how much harder it is if you have to spend every day coping with autism of another condition. So I am urging you as parents to look beyond what you may initially see in a child. Look beyond what your child is telling you about them. Lead your child by example and teach them that not all of us are the same and they should accept peoples different ways and embrace them for their individuality.
And on that note let me leave you with this thought – a big misconception of autistic children is that they don’t like being in social situations. They often would love to socialise with friends, they just find it harder. Maybe your child could grow up to be the one to make this easier for them. Let your child be that one person who makes a difference.