Why Would Anyone Do That?
I sit here with a heavy heart tonight. A heavy heart, yet a proud one.
I cannot begin to imagine the grief that must be felt by the families of those who were killed in Paris yesterday. The mothers……….the fathers………..the children of those innocent people who lost their lives in such an inhumane and unnecessary way.
I try to keep negativity out of my life as truly believe that if we remove negativity we can achieve great things. But this is a negative force that is impossible to ignore. Lives are being shattered because of the modern day war that is terrorism.
How do we explain this to our children? Do we hide it from them hoping that they will carry on living in their happy little bubble or do we tell them the truth that there are evil people in this world?
This was a dilemma that I was faced with today after my sons overheard my husband and I discussing the Paris tragedy. A dilemma that was taken out of my hands as I have always prided myself on answering their questions in a truthful yet age appropriate way. I told my sons that there had been a terrorist attack in Paris and some horrible people had killed some innocent people. Their little faces looked at me wide eyed as they simply said ‘but why would anyone do that?’ Their response was so simple yet so poignant. They live in a world where they are loved. A world where they are safe. They go to a c of e school that welcomes different cultures and different races. Their little innocent heads hold no judgement. To them a child is a child, period.
Later, they saw my computer screen open on Facebook and my eldest son asked me why so many people’s faces were covered in red, white and blue. Of course, he was referring to the French flag that so many of us have put on top of our profile pictures. A sign of respect. A sign of solidarity. I took great pride in explaining to him that the world was coming together to show their support for France. Showing them that they will not stand alone and we will support them in this time of need.
Earlier in the day I had given my sons the sad news that there were some bad people in this world who tried to hurt others. Later I was able to show them that these poor excuses for human beings were in the minority. The majority of us do want love, peace and harmony. As grownups we do understand the complexities of the war on terror. We do understand that if we are to survive, we need to stand united and fight back. But underneath it all, we go back to our basic child like reasoning and we do say ‘why would anyone do that?’
If we all loved and accepted with the innocence of a child the world would be a better place. Yes these are scary times and things are likely to get worse before they get better but we have to hope that one day they will get better otherwise the terrorists have won. Instead of worrying about the world we are leading our children into, we need to teach them the state of mind to make this world a better place.